7 Ways To Survive A One Sided Crush

It hurts like a bitch! We know but the worst thing a woman can do is to react obsessively to a guy who doesn’t like her. Just because his feelings aren’t mutual doesn’t mean you should go into depression.

One sided crushes could be the worst thing ever, so how can a lady get herself out of that situation.

Kiley Coleman of Binoni lists a few tips on how to handle being rejected by a guy:

Ignore him: The most important rule is to forget he exists, it won’t be easy at first. The worst thing you can do is try and talk to him. I’m not talking about that 3 day rule of no texting or calling, several weeks should do it. Girls always get this itch to text a guy something funny we’ve thought of, or a simple question, anything just to seem like it was okay to contact him, when really he knows what your true motive is. When we see the guys we like, we usually say hi and smile, and try and come up with a creative topic. Instead, go out of your way to not speak to him. If you have to, keep it really short, no more than 3 words. If he sees you are confident enough to be rejected and not become clingy, it will help paint his view of you different in his head. Best part is it may turn the tables around and create this chase! Because what guy can imagine a girl really getting over him that fast?

Don’t be a flirt: If you are into a guy and he doesn’t like you back, the worst thing you can do is flirt with him. All you are doing is making yourself more available to him, when your solution is to always become harder to get. Keep the body language to a minimum. That includes arm touching, turning anything he says into something sexual, and purposely trying to be around him. Rule on how to react when he doesn’t like you, keep hands and feet away from boys at all times! There is a way to communicate with him in a monotone way just by staying neutral. You’ll have no problem just by thinking of him as the creeper who is hitting on you when you go out.

Be cordial: This relates above to the two ways to react when he doesn’t like you. There is a fine line between being a priss and being super sexual. The goal is you don’t want him to think your emotional actions have any correlation between his zero feelings for you. If he says hello, say hello back. Think of being cordial as looking in a mirror. Whatever he does, you reciprocate the same way. That doesn’t take away that ignoring him and not flirting are priorities. Just don’t make the guy think, “Wow, she’s so dramatic,” because you purposely scuff him. When men see a female angry at them they think two things: crazy girl, and they don’t want to deal with you.

Throw your guy friends in his face: Hard truth about men, ladies, is that the other views males have of you highly affect their opinion of you. The cycle of life with boys is that if one man finds a female attractive and tells another man, it creates an approval. The next thing you know the whole group of guys are talking about you. We all know men’s basic instinct is competition, so when two or more are on the same page with a girl, the automatic “who will win” factor kicks in. When you first read this way to react when he doesn’t like you, the assumption is to make your crush jealous. But really it is for him to see you are wanted and approved by other men. Even if your crush doesn’t know it, his natural caveman instincts react.

Feel and look good: Girls, of course no one likes to feel rejected. Our first thought is to jump to “I am not enough.” Instead of putting all your attention into feeling sorry for yourself and changing who you are to be liked, focus on enjoying your womanhood. If a guy doesn’t like you it usually has to do with his own stuff, unless you are “that crazy girl”. Go shopping, do a make over, take a zumba class, anything to take your mind off that boy, and put it onto yourself in a positive light.

Stop trying and accept it: There comes a point in our lives where we feel we will never get over that certain person. From experience, you do finally move on. If you are dwelling over the same crush for months on end, just give it up. It’s a wake up call but sometimes you need to stop trying and accept the fact he doesn’t like you. Why spend all your time going after and obsessing about someone, who isn’t into you? All that energy can be focused on you, your friends, work, life, etc. The more you try and focus on something, the bigger it gets in a negative way. A lot of times letting go of the obsession creates a freedom, and a gift. The gift can come in different ways, like now that you are not fawning over this boy, you became more appealing to him. Or because you stopped spending your time focused on him, you opened your eyes up to see all the other men that are available to you. This is the toughest way to react when he doesn’t like you.

Party like its your last! Last but not least, go have fun! How are you suppose to have the opportunity to meet someone else if you are stuck isolating and upset over a guy? Having a social life is the best way to react when he doesn’t like you. Your social media walls will be blowing up with hot selfies, and fun #hashtags from the great time your having. This could make that boy realize you are someone he wants to go hang with, or better yet you might have found a new guy that is actually interested in you! So go throw on some heels and call up your girlfriends to have a night of fun

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